Mama...Read This When You're Not Feeling Enough
A while back I read an Instagram post by a friend I look up to and admire…and it’s totally stuck with me.
I thought maybe you needed to hear it today.
This is what she said…
I am a great mom. (You must continue reading to see that is not a conceited sentence!)
Last week I was out with a few of my girlfriends and we started talking about parenting, being a mom, and how hard it is. One of my girlfriends then said she sucks at being a mom. Over and over in her head, she hears herself say she is inadequate and not doing a good job. Around the table, we all chimed in agreement.
“ YA, I HEAR YOU. I SUCK AT BEING A MOM SOMETIMES TOO.”
I even said it. I said, “Yes, I often fall mega short at being a good mom.”
WHY? Why did I say that? That is not true. I do not believe that in my core. I immediately felt my heart tug at me. Why did you say that? You know you are a great mom. You pour your heart and sweat into that job.
Did I want to make her feel better? Did I want to conform to the group? Yes!
You know what, though?
THAT FRIEND IS AN EXCELLENT MOM.
AND SO WAS EVERY GIRL SITTING AT THAT TABLE.
We all deeply love our children and our husbands. We fight for our kids. We delay gratification in hopes to build little human beings that are not entitled. We set boundaries. We protect. We play. And we love.
I have had it with this idea of self-deprecation. There are no perfect mothers.
We WILL make mistakes every day. But as long as we show up, work hard, and LOVE HARD, we are doing a dang great job at being a mom.
So to my girlfriends around the table that evening – I apologize for being anything less than the powerful spirit inside of me. We are fabulous moms and we are going to bask in that sunshine.
(written and posted by Abigail Irene Fisher)
Soooo….what do you think? Do you speak negativity over yourself, too? If you want the honest truth, I’m REALLY hard on myself and feel this nearly daily. Please tell me I’m not alone!
How do you remind yourself you’re the good mom you actually are?!